A few weeks ago I attended a holiday luncheon and we were all asked to go around the table and state one of our New Year's Resolutions. When I was requested to reveal, I simply replied, "I don't believe in New Year's Resolutions. I'm not sure if it's because I have broken so many of them or I because I am still paying for a few memberships that I never used, but I just don't find them useful." I received several curious glances from around the table; and a couple nods of understanding. Of course I did play the luncheon game and offered up a gracious "thank you for all of the collaboration demonstrated by my teammates during the year" instead of a "resolution".
Following the luncheon, I pondered, What does this mean about me? Isn't the new year supposed to be about recommitting yourself to your goals...committing to achieve new things that you want to accomplish...tackling new challenges? I have been so absorbed over the past five years with major events in my life, I wondered if I had lost all hope of setting future goals and challenges. Maybe I am just done. Uninspired and unmotivated. Or maybe I am just "surviving" all of the major changes that have been presented in my life.
However, if you know me, you know that this is NOT me at all.
A few days later, I discovered a post on one of my new favorite blogs, the Conscious Leadership Group. It is called, "A Toast to Living in Completion" and is about "completing" the things that you need to finish up or tie off so that you can move into the new year successfully. I love this post. I thought about this past year, and I realized that for me, this has been a year of very wonderful completions. I completed a mourning process that I was experiencing from moving back to the US from England. I stopped feeling unsafe in my new surroundings. I recommitted myself to the field of Leadership Development which in a way, is a completion - a completion of self-doubt that I could continue to contribute with inordinate success to my lifelong work. I "completed" a relationship with a prior business partner as she graciously found a purchaser for my personal stock. One of my best friends successfully completed months of grueling cancer treatments. She also completed a marriage, and is happier now than I have ever seen her. My parents completed a move into their new home. The list goes on, and as a side note while the completions of friends and family may not appear to directly impact me, they do impact me in a very, very emotional way. I realized that this concept of completions resinates with me to the core.
So after listening to this post, and am pondering what additional "completions" I need to address. And my New Year's Resolution, is to ensure that I have addressed all completions that need to be addressed so that I am fully present to move into this new year, open to all possibilities and new growth.
Listen to Diane and Jim's post called A Toast to Living in Completion.
Happy New Year!